As a child I was teased quite a bit for my huge
feet. Even today, I am not a small woman standing 5’8” and wearing a size ten
shoe. My maternal grandmother always used to tell me I had a “good
understanding”, then she would hug me and make me cinnamon toast. Her words
have stuck with me even after her passing and perhaps that is why I love new
shoes. Of all shapes, colours and styles, I adore them. And my most recent purchase-boots
with faux fur trim and bright red laces just make my heart sing. A great pair
of new boots will chase the winter blues away faster than you can recite your
credit card number. But the way my new boots made me feel got me to thinking
about the initial words that made me feel awful about my big feet. Mind you, it
wasn’t all meant to be hurtful. “Those are some mighty big feet for such a
little girl!” accompanied by a hearty chuckle was a favourite thing for older
people to say to me around the age of ten. But I wonder how I would feel about
myself today if I didn’t have Gram whispering in my ear that it was a good and
special thing to have these feet? That
this is the way God had made me and I was perfect and wonderful? I am the
mother of boys but my second favourite job in the whole world is being an
Auntie. I have many little girls in my life that I hope and pray every day grow
up with strong self-esteem and the belief that they too are wonderful and
perfect. In a world full of Photoshop, stick thin models, mostly embellished
statuses on Facebook and the unrealistic expectations that bombard our kids
every single day to be famous, let’s be that whispered voice that tells them
they are wonderful how they are. That every photo does not need airbrushing.
That they are smart and beautiful and fun. Let’s keep in mind that our words
are powerful things that can’t be taken back after we say them. Instead of
commenting on the size of an excited little girl’s shoes, why not compliment
her on those red laces? Because I am sure she is pretty proud of them.
Thursday, March 17, 2016
Winter blues and new shoes
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